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Mungkin seluruh dunia udah tau kalau saya penggemar Amy Chua #1. Saya tuh pengen banget punya anak yang pemikirannya bisa sampe kesini

There’s one more thing: I think the desire to live a meaningful life is universal. To some people, it’s working toward a goal. To others, it’s enjoying every minute of every day. So what does it really mean to live life to the fullest? Maybe striving to win a Nobel Prize and going skydiving are just two sides of the same coin. To me, it’s not about achievement or self-gratification. It’s about knowing that you’ve pushed yourself, body and mind, to the limits of your own potential. You feel it when you’re sprinting, and when the piano piece you’ve practiced for hours finally comes to life beneath your fingertips. You feel it when you encounter a life-changing idea, and when you do something on your own that you never thought you could. If I died tomorrow, I would die feeling I’ve lived my whole life at 110 percent. (Sophia Chua-Rubenfeld).

Subhanalloh banget yah Sophia.

Salah satu petikan wawancara Amy Chua

Q : You’ve talked about generational decline and how your daughters have grown up in a much more privileged environment than you did as the daughter of immigrants. While there are obviously a great many benefits to growing up with privilege, what are the challenges? How do you combat these issues? In a place like Singapore where many children are raised with domestic helpers and kiasu parents want to give them every competitive advantage, this is a major concern of ours!

A : Raising privileged kids is a big problem. If they’re spoiled, or grow up being made to think they are the centre of the universe, they will become these selfish narcissists who don’t do any good for anyone. When you over-stress grades or university admission as the be-all end-all to your kids, you run the danger of making them think they’re more important than anything else in the world. Children need humility, responsibility and gratitude to become good citizens and leaders.

My friend Wendi Deng [the extremely wealthy ex-wife of Rupert Murdoch] loves my daughters and asked for my #1 piece of advice to help her daughters grow up to be like them. I told her: Make your kids take out the garbage. She laughed, but I’m serious! It teaches them humility and morality, which kids need to avoid developing a sense of entitlement.

A few other key tidbits from Professor Chua’s talk:

• “From the age of 6 or 7, help children develop their own opinions and views. Treat them like adults! Around the dinner table discuss politics, the environment, space travel…ask questions! For us Asians I know this is hard because there’s homework to be done and instruments to be practiced, but it goes a long way to deepening their thinking.”

• “Expose your children to art. It helps bring out soft skills. Ask them ‘What do you think about this?’ or ‘How does it make you feel?’. It teaches them that there’s not always one right answer.”

• “Give your children the freedom and flexibility to take risks. Starting as young as 7, let them make their own mistakes, and give them space to be spontaneous. Failure is a necessary ingredient of strength and success.”

• “Encourage humour and laughter in your home, in your children, and in school. Humour requires critical thinking; you need to be self aware and able to questions things. Plus, laughter is psychologically healthy. It’s a release valve. A way of lowering the stakes and keeping things in perspective.”

• “I’m big on unconditional love. No matter how strict you are, don’t ever say ‘If you don’t do this I won’t love you’. The message needs to be: ‘You are capable of so much more than you think you are’.”